By: Brandon Teepell
This Article was originally posted here and is republished here in its entirety with permission from the author
For some time now it has been my belief that those people who are fighting for Men’s Rights should not deal with Feminists. We should not acknowledge them, talk to them, discuss them, or debate them.
A recent Jezebel.com article by Lindy West  only served to solidify that contention within me. The article which is titled No, I Will Not Take the Men’s Rights Movement Seriously outlines a problem that ‘outsiders’, those who are not active participants in Men’s Rights Activism, have when they view what has become known as the ‘Men’s Rights movement’. They contend that we are, and view us as, nothing but angry reactionaries who do not work towards a singular goal but instead work towards the destruction of the goals and achievements of Feminism. To be honest, I can see why.
When we, as a group, are stupid enough to hand feed our enemy our most vulnerable body parts you can not be angry at them for attacking those parts.
I feel, probably just as strongly as any other, that the Occidental College’s anonymous rape reporting system was flawed but, in my honest opinion (IMHO), there was no reason why people who claimed to be Men’s Rights Activists needed to flood a system that was unable to handle their complaints. Engaging in this way made us look hypocritical and dishonest. We fought false rape allegations, with false rape allegation, and made us look like we were unsympathetic to real victims of rape and sexual assault. No matter how many times we now say that we are sympathetic it will not erase that idea from people’s minds. It has crippled our integrity.
This is the very definition of reactionary.
When a group, like ours, has in front of us a laundry list of injustices in the world that are sitting out in the no man’s land between the two conflicting groups, why does it benefit us to try and skirmish the ‘enemies’ lines?
Domestic Violence against Men can be dealt with by engaging with victims. Feminists need not be there.
Male Rape can be dealt with by engaging with victims. Feminists need not be there.
Male Genital Mutilation can be dealt with by engaging with victims. Feminists need not be there.
Male homelessness can be dealt with by engaging with victims. Feminists need not be there.
Male reproductive rights can be dealt with by engaging with Men. Feminists need not be there.
When we take a stance and fight for that which we should all have, we have the high ground, and those who fight against us become the reactionaries. If we take the issues that men and boys face and fight for them on what ground do feminists have to stand?
Think back to the incident at Ryerson University where the Student Union protested Warren Farrell . They engaged in attacking an Event that had nothing to do with the removal of any kind of right for women. It did not compare, it did not liken, it spoke directly about the issues effecting men. Those who protested were made to look foolish, even to Feminists and Feminist supporters. And when Karen Straughan went back to Ryerson just earlier this year  there was some initial hostility  but the high ground had been lost. There were no more protests, there were no engagers, it was just a small amount of bureaucracy and solid victory for Men’s Rights.
It is made very clear by Lindy West that she feels that they “don’t need [Men’s Rights] for this discussion.” That we are “superfluous and should be left in [our] corner.” Given the evidence she is presenting Lindy West and Jezebel.com are right. They are right because we allow ourselves to be the type of people they claim that we are. We need to move away from people like PUA’s (Pick up artists), we need to move away from anti-feminism, we need to move away from reactionary tactics, we need to move away from Feminists. None of these things are getting us anywhere even if they are getting us in the public eye. It’s time to move on from being active to being pro-active.
About the Author
Brandon Teepell is a 27 year old Men’s Rights Activist in his home of Ontario, Canada. He is married with 4 children.
Brandon Teepell Also has a blog at thevoiceofgodtherapist.wordpress.com